So, I was on vacation last month.
A seven thousand mile trip in my little red car, zooming from Chicago to Fargo to Billings to Seattle to Salt Lake.
I had a blast. Maybe you’ve read about it.
It was funny to me how many of my friends and readers and acquaintances, how many of you, worried about me. Not about my safety or my driving or my being run down by one of those triple rig FedEx trucks in North Dakota (I must admit, I did have a few moments of fear and trepidation around those monsters). You worried that I was not slowing down enough. That I was not sleeping in. That I was (gasp!) going to the gym and (oh, my GOD!) exercising every day. On vacation! Away from home, where the air is sweet and the food has no calories and dessert comes automatically with every meal.
When I would post that I was walking or biking at the Hampton Inn in Portland, someone would tell me to take it easy, relax, skip a day, take a nap.
Funny, that, because if you know me well, as many of you do, you know that I do NOT do well with down time. I do NOT relax if I am lying on a bed or in a chair trying to make my eyelids close for a late afternoon nap before dinner. I do NOT feel good if I skip the morning workout and sleep an extra hour, then eat two plates of free breakfast that includes pancakes, sausage, and plenty of syrup.
Oh, I’ve tried. I have. I have tried to lie down in the evening and watch television. I have tried to not set an alarm on vacation and just sleep until the sun smacks me on the eyelids and says, “Get up, rise and shine, buddy!” Every once in a while I’m successful.
But you know what, dear readers of mine? As we get older, we get set in our ways, for better or worse. Now, we can argue until the cows come home what is better for you, healthier for you, what makes you happier, calmer, lowers your blood pressure, etc. I’m not writing this to do that.
I’m writing to tell you that I firmly believe that we all have set-points, mid-points that we naturally settle into. Places and states (not literal states, no, though Washington state was killer…) where we feel our best, have the most energy, eat the healthiest for our own metabolism and where we are the most creative, productive and happy. I believe this. I think you should give it some thought.
No matter how hard I try, I keep coming back to what my body is trying to tell me is a good place, a happy place, a contented place where it wants to do what I tell it to do with minimal muss and fuss. Now, for many of you this will sound absolutely crazy, and thats okay.
It’s my set-point, not yours. Get your own!
I do best if I get up at five AM. At that time of the day, which I love, I can make coffee, eat some breakfast, read the paper, process my email, and acknowledge comments here on the blog and elsewhere. I do not need to worry about the day, because I’ve already thought it through. I can take my time, not feel rushed, get ready, and get out the door by seven or so most days depending on where I need to be.
I do not exercise in the morning, with one exception. In the winter months when basketball season is upon us, like now, I like to go watch the Aiken Pacers, who play a mile or two down the road from me in the evenings. This cuts into gym time, so I must work an hour walk into my morning routine. No problem. It just needs to get done, people. Make it happen!
I count on working until the day is done. Some clinic days, that means five PM and finished. Days that I tack a telepsych shift on after clinic, the day is done at midnight or one AM. I feel much more content if I do NOT worry about the crazy hours I work. For now, I choose to work these hours. That will change one day, no doubt. For now, I work until the work is done.
Exercise usually comes in the evening, an hour and a half or so at the gym. If I don’t have time to exercise today because I’m working sixteen hours, that’s okay. If I’m not working the whole day and I have time to exercise, there is no excuse to deprive my fifty-seven year old body of what it needs to stay active and healthy-movement. This is not a chore after you get used to it. You miss it if you miss it.
I try to eat “real” food, when my lifestyle is much more conducive to eating junk or whatever I can grab on the way from one place to another. My body has repeatedly told me, very clearly, that it does NOT like and does NOT feel good if it is topped off with sweets or excess carbs or junk food. The insulin rush and crash after candy bars and Pop Tarts is not for this boy. That said, I LOVE sweets and had rather eat that kind of stuff more than almost anything on earth. I just know that if I want to feel strong and healthy and alert and awake, I’d better not overdo it. It’s just not worth the blahs and the bloats and the mental dulling that comes with that short-lived binge of sweetness.
I use a Jawbone Up24 (Yes, I have pre-ordered the Jawbone Up3, to be shipped December 1st and it looks awesome) to help me track activity and sleep primarily. I have learned about my own non-patterns (again, I work crazy hours, have an insane schedule and most people think I am slightly off for doing so). The software for this device has told me in no uncertain terms a couple of times that it cannot figure me out! There are not enough patterns for it to process and give me meaningful feedback about. Wow.
That being said, sleep is not normal for me, but I’ve learned that this is okay too. I can try to get seven to nine hours of sleep per night as suggested by those who know, but I will just be constantly frustrated because I NEVER sleep more than six and half hours on a normal night. I have found, again, that I feel much better if I get up at the same time every day (which I CAN control most every day) and get to bed just as soon as I am finished work (which I usually CANNOT control at all most days) I do okay. I get enough sleep. I could be getting more, but in my life right now, that is not going to be the routine pattern for me. No worries. I run with it.
Some of you need eight or ten or twelve hours of sleep a night. That’s great and I’m glad you can do that. I can’t.
Any time that I have more than just a day or two off work, I plan to DO something. Go somewhere, see something new, hike, fish, travel, take pictures, visit, see a show, eat in a new restaurant. This is routine for me right now. (See down time above). I love football and basketball games. I like to see my family. I have dreams to make a few more big trips.
The take home?
Routine should be just that, whatever that means for you.
Figure out what keeps your body feeling physically good, energized and ready for action.
Eat healthy as much as you practically can.
Sleep as much or as little as you need to perform at your peak level.
Seek out stimulation that makes you learn and grow.
Be responsible for your own happiness.
In the end, you’re the only one that has that duty in the present.
Don’t let your future self down.